This music sometimes turns on in our head when we are working with our child. Sometimes when they ask for one more story we say a stern 'no' because we are afraid of a slippery slope of dilly-dallying. When the pediatrician says by this age your child should be doing ____, it might turn on your shark music. If your child wakes up in the middle of the night after sleeping through the night for so many days before, it might turn on your shark music.
Shark music is shaped by past experiences or future fears and it clouds our ability to attune to our child. We struggle to see our individual child in this individual moment because we are afraid of what might happen or what should be. If you become conscious of this shark music, you can turn it down by accepting the fear and considering it within the context of this child and this moment.