Only if we are composed can we access the logical problem solving brain. Composure is about learning to accept, process, and regulate emotions before making a decision or solving a problem.

We all need the help and support of our family and friends. Encouragement is about providing that support with full acceptance and without judgment.

Clear and direct communication of our boundaries and expectations supports everyone to succeed together. Children need to see adults say no respectfully so they can learn how to say no respectfully when they need to draw a boundary.

All people have a basic need for autonomy. Helping children to see their choices and have some control in their world supports children to learn decision making skills and helps children learn to cooperate while maintaining their autonomy.

All people are simply making choices with the best information and skills they have. Seeing a situation or behavior through a lens of children simply trying to meet their needs, we can accept the moment as it is and see an opportunity to teach.

Through empathy we stay connected as a community. When we can connect with others, we can see how our choices impact them. When we feel empathy from others, we can better maintain our composure to make good decisions and solve problems.

Consequences are not punishments or rewards but simply the outcome of our choices. When we fully feel and embrace the consequences of our choices, we can learn from the decisions we have made and make better choices in the future.