How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk

by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

Recommended by ONCDC


This is a valuable book for all parents, especially as children approach 3 years of age and continue to grow. “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk” provides specific skills to parents that support respectful and cooperative family relationships. If you have established peaceful parenting practices and are continuing your study of reflective parenting, “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen” is a must-read. We particularly like the Audio Version which gives you the tone of each scenario. This book will certainly help parents with their long-term goals of raising a child who is a strong decision maker. We also recommend “How to Talk…” to teachers of children over three up to middle school age. Everyone can learn from exploring this resource.

Key Points:

  • All of it, this is a great, comprehensive, and well organized book.
  • Carefully drafted examples help adults take children’s perspectives.


  • This book is a little dated. The author’s children wrote a book we also recommend.
  • The praise chapter doesn’t go quite far enough to address what current brain research recommends around acknowledgement without judgment.