Raising a Secure Child

by Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, and Bert Powell

Recommended by ONCDC


When I was first introduced to the Circle of Security, I was immediately drawn to its simplicity and profound impact on the way we think about parenting. “Raising A Secure Child” is a quick and easy way to dive deep into reflecting on your parenting and how to support security in your child. The authors brilliantly articulate complex research in an easy to digest book while somehow miraculously staying out of shame, blame, and judgment. It is a powerful book and we recommend it for both teachers and families.

Explore this video introduction.

Key Points:

  • Children are on a circle, going out for exploration, and learning or coming back for comfort and support.
  • Your job is to hold their circle with hands that are bigger, stronger, wiser, and kind.
  • Imperfection is your friend; it teaches children mistakes are human, the world isn’t black and white, and you can repair after ruptures.
  • There are fears from your experiences that will replay in your mind as shark music.
  • Behavior is communication, but sometimes children miscue their needs.


My only challenge was late into Part Two when it felt as if the authors were getting a bit nit-picky on language use. I am quite particular about the language I use with children and found this to be excessively so. Perfection is not the goal. You’ll love this book!