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Mistakes in Parenting

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We all have moments where we aren’t our wisest, kindest, or best selves. For parents and caregivers these moments often trigger a lot of self-blame and regret but we have good news. These moments where we aren’t our best are important learning moments for our children. In fact, it is healthy for children to learn…

Teaching Children To Get Your Attention

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“Attention, actually shared attention, is a fundamental human need. Adults and children thrive when they have relationships rich with experiences of shared attention.” Young children can need a lot of attention from their caregivers and it is common for children to develop really irritating methods for getting your attention. Children are in fact very good…

Reflecting on the Words “I feel…”

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In tonight’s NVC Community of Practice we were discussing the distinction between an observation and an evaluation. We bounced around a bit but then got into some deep discussion around the common cultural practice of starting a sentence with “I feel…” then of course following it up with something that is definitely not an emotion…

NVC and Basic Trust

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“If we can see our role as supporter, guide, and champion, we can relax. If we try to meet all of children’s needs this parenting journey is going to be quite stressful.” Our school does a lot of work with the RIE philosophy as well as nonviolent communication. Recently I was introducing a small group…

Responding to Fear

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Parent Question: I wondered if you had advice or resources for responding to a baby or child’s fear (at about 11 months in this case)? In the past week and particularly yesterday, our little one has been responding fearfully to some loud new sounds like the vacuum, carpet cleaner, and dogs barking. She cried/yelled and…

Best Books for Grandparents

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We know it takes a village to raise a child and parents aren’t the only ones who need support when your trying to grow citizens for the future. We have handpicked some of the best books to support grandparents to understand and work with little ones in new ways. The Gardener and The Carpenter by…

Top 5 Books on Challenging Behaviors

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If you have a toddler or a preschooler it is likely there will be challenging moments in your household. You’re not alone we all have them. There are a slue of books out there that claim to be the key to helping parents change children’s challenging behaviors. I have some sad news, they won’t. These…

Best 3 Infant Care Books

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If you or a friend have a baby on the way we highly recommend the RIE (Resources for Infant Educarer) resources. We have read a lot of other stuff that is out there but none of it matches up to the works of Magda Gerber and her associates. These infant books are low guilt, holding…